I want to get this right. I want to make sure I can clearly identify why I have felt burned out. I think there are hundreds of factors, but I’ve broken it down into the five that I think are the most accurate and impactful: overwork, ambition, disinterest, money, and work-life balance. Let me preface this all with this is my opinion, based on my experience. I am not trying to whine or complain. This is just what I have to say. I have never been in a position where my company is being acquired, so the thought of being given “Golden Handcuffs” is an incredibly foreign concept to me. But the feeling of burning out is something familiar to me.
Overwork is the most obvious, but I think it’s also the easiest to overlook. It’s easy to let the hours slip by when you want to hit an achievement. Especially in college, where we do a majority of our work in the evenings, its only too easy to sit down with a cup of coffee at 9:00 PM and then look up and see you’ve gone through two pots and its 3:30 and you haven’t even left your desk for more than a minute to go to the bathroom or refill the bowl of chips you’ve mindlessly been eating. Doing two or three of these a week (or even a month) really affects me. Although I get out of bed at 8:00 or 9:00 the next morning, I am not awake until noon. I walk around like a zombie all day, my emotions are high strung, and I am waling a tightrope until I can finish classes or work and finally reach those twenty minutes of bliss I allow myself to nap before starting to tackle the next stack of assignments I have. Breaking up work and allowing yourself to have mental down time helps prevent this.
Next is ambition. This may seem like an odd one to credit burning out to but I think it’s closely tied to overwork. I consider myself an incredibly ambitious person. I feel I can always be pushing myself to do more and to do better. I always want to be the best. And because of this I have found myself overextending and reaching to touch too many goals. And more times than not, I fall short of more goals than goals achieved. Signing up for work and projects (both in a formal sense as well as you just telling yourself) makes you ambitious. But it also leads to not being able to devote the required brain activity to anything and causes you to be stressed about finishing them all. This starts a vicious cycle of stress to doing work to overworking to stress. Time management and self-control are necessary to prevent this.
Third, disinterest I think runs rampant with college kids and early career adults. When we accept a job position, we all walk into the office the first few weeks with rose colored glasses. We think everything is great. We have a very regular work schedule. We can leave work at work. We are getting a regular paycheck. We are living in a cool place. Whatever is going on, I think there is something that is distracting us from the reality of it all. Now I don’t want to jump to the conclusion and say this is everyone, but I would not be surprised if it was common. After the first few months, we will wake up one morning, and think: “What the hell am I doing? I hate my job.” We will realize because of the money, or the house, or the friends we have been making, we haven’t really paid attention to work. The place we spend most of our time at, the place we spend a majority of our energy at, the place that is draining us, we never knew what was going on. Once this realization occurs, burnout soon ensues. Actually paying attention to your surroundings helps mitigate this.
Along the same lines, money causes the burn out. Even after we realize we don’t like our jobs, it’s hard to leave that nice pretty check. I mean look at all those zeros. A couple months ago, we were lucky to be able to pay rent and textbooks. Now everything seems to be a little easier. Sure we might not like our jobs, but we are too scared or too naïve to continue to search for greener pastures where we can actually be happy. All because of those little slips of paper that come over week or so that make a little number we check on or phones go up. You need courage to severe ties and push to find something better.
Lastly, and I think most importantly is work-life balance. It’s easy to become wrapped up in a routine. Like the writer in “Avoiding Burnout” said, it’s easy to get off work and immediately sit down in front of the computer or the television. It’s easy to get off work and then just not really accomplish anything and before you know it is time to go to sleep to get back up and return to work. There become two parts to your day: work and not-work. This isn’t even a slippery slope, this is a cliff. You need something to balance out work. For me I try to work out three of four times a week – but I know that’s not enough. On the days I don’t work out I try to work as a bartender or brewery at a place down the road – not because I need/want the money, but because I like what I do, and it allows me to exit work mode and enter a more creative mindset. When I don’t do that, I try to cook, or meet up with a friend. As difficult as it is, especially as the introvert that I am, I try to keep as active as possible while keeping my mind out of work mode. It would be so much easier to just sit on the couch and watch television but I feel so much better when I am doing something.
I had an interview recently, and I was actually talking with the CTO, CFO, and COO of the company in a panel interview. I asked them about the work life balance of the company, and one of them responded: “I think work-life balance is bullshit. I want employees who are always thinking about work and solving problems.” Neither of the other two high ups even flinched when he said that. I knew this company was not right for me. Sure every company wants their employees to be super effective, but which company wants their employees to hate work and burn out in a matter of weeks. I am not going to say this was the reason I walked out, but I will say this had a big impact. After a brief break, I decided to thank them for their time, and cut the interview short. I knew that was not the place for me. It’s necessary for companies to value work-life balance. It’s imperative. And just the same, it’s imperative to manage these factors in my life to avoid a burn out.